“Don’t be afraid to ask for help.”
There’s something to be said for trying to learn things your own way (see this post). Some people do learn by first trying things out themselves *I’m one of them*. But there comes a time where you have to accept that maybe you need some help, or an alternative perspective to your own. That’s when pride should be pushed aside, and the door opened to seeking out help.
Others will always have a slightly (sometimes very) different perspective than our own. They’ve lived different lives, had different experiences, different genetics, and a whole slew of other factors that make them different from you. While these differences can be drastic, or minute, they still result in a slightly different perspective, forged through different experiences. These experiences can be an asset to us, especially since they can be ones that we may have no clue where to begin on.
My favorite example is asking for directions. I enjoy wandering aimlessly through a city, and letting the fact that I may not know where I’m going become an adventure. But when I need to be somewhere, I always ask for help. It’s quick, convenient, and opens an opportunity for a brief (or sometimes not so brief) human interaction.
It’s very easy to let our pride get in the way. Asking for help implies that we aren’t knowledgeable, or aren’t experienced. Asking for help opens us to a world of rejection. But what we fail to realize in our “emotional logic” is that not EVERYONE knows everything there is to know about everything. Not everyone has the same experiences. So yes, someone who is a local may be better able to answer the “how do I get to X” better than we do. But there are places that they too would ask for directions.
As for the world of rejection, well, most of the time people do help. Sometimes it’s because they don’t want to appear the “bad guy”, other times its because they genuinely want to help, and sometimes it’s because the people that we are most likely to ask for help could be the ones we have already built significant trust and friendship with, who are less likely to reject us anyway! And if you’re on the giving end of the help, it feels good! These are just a few things to keep in mind the next time pride or fear try to get in the way of your growth.
Humans are social creature by default. We’ve always lived in clusters or tribes and part of that reason is because although we may adapt very well as individuals, we ultimately prefer the aid of those around us. For a large period of time, humanity has been stronger in numbers, than any one individual. Asking for help is tapping into the pool of resources available in the sea of humanity to give you a little boost you may need in achieving success.