Andrew J Walton from the “Cracking the Happiness Code” blog has created a list of 29 items that we should all give up in order to be happy. The post is very detailed with some direct applications as to HOW to go about it.
One of my favourites was #15: “Give up the need to be right“:
One of the reasons I like writing this blog is I get to exercise my intellectual prowess without censorship or argument. However, leading all aspects of my life in the same way I write a blog post would be ruinous for my relationships.
When we value being right – or rather, feeling like we’ve won an intellectual debate – over our relationships with others, those relationships erode.
It’s understandable why this is the case. Being wrong threatens our identity when we associate too closely with the ideas and opinions we express.
But our ideas are independent of us. In fact, they’re not our ideas at all. The process by which humanity increases its knowledge is a continuous and collective process.
Letting go of the need to be/feel right will allow us to focus more on what’s truly important, our relationships and our ability to come together to find solutions to the challenges that face us.How: Learn to listen more and talk less. You already know your opinion, and the only way you’re going to learn anything new is by letting someone else share theirs. By valuing the other person and your own growth more than the jolt of pleasure from dominating someone with your caustic wit, you’ll both come away happier.
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