Fear….The emotion is sparked off each time there is pain, evil or danger in some context or another.In essence, the emotion is aroused in cases where the impending threat is a reality or even just imagined. You feel afraid whether there is something to fear or in some cases when there is no actual need to be afraid.
Every single one of us have our own struggles to deal with. We worry, we procrastinate, we don’t feel good enough, we wish we had more money.
But when you think about it, every single of these problems is self-created. They’re real, but they are only real because we’ve created them in our minds. We’ve attached ourselves to the way things should be, rather than accepting what is. The Buddha was right when he said desiring and attachment are the primary cause of unhappiness.
It’s all in our heads, but it doesn’t have to be this way. The key is to see life as it is, without all the ideals and fantasies you’ve created in your mind. Let go of all those stressful distractions and just accept and experience the moment.
Considering this, now would be an opportune time to remind of yourself of some hard truths about life that will benefit you in the long run.
So what does a morning ritual need to contain to put you in the right frame of mind to be productive? And happy? (Yeah, happy is important. This is a “morning ritual”, not a “mourning ritual.”) Just remember PCO:
Why these three? What do they do? How do you turn these three nouns into a Tyrannosaur of a morning ritual that will make the Earth tremble at your approach?
What does the research say the best morning ritual consists of? Here’s what studies and experts conclude about starting a productive, happy day.
Our mental health is an important part of our daily lives, but with our fast-paced, hectic schedules, it can be hard to find the time to take care of ourselves and maintain our mental health. If your life doesn’t lend itself to extended vacations for relaxation or yoga retreats, here are seven daily rituals you can incorporate into even the busiest day to give yourself a break and help improve your mental health:
Fears stop us from building healthy and productive habits. Fears cause us to procrastinate, keep us from finding work that is meaningful (or doing that work if we’ve found it). Fears keep us from finding friends or connecting with people on a deeper level. Fears keep us from being happy in each moment.
Underlying all of those fears are a few key fears:
Fear of failure or being unprepared
Fear of uncertainty
Fear of being inadequate or being rejected
What would our lives be like if we didn’t have fear holding us back?
Let’s take away that power, and shine a little light on the problem. Allow ourselves to feel the pain, to feel the fear and still take action. To begin the healing. To begin to create something new and amazing from the ills that have been hiding in the dark.
Turn toward the problem and you turn it into something beautiful.
“Sit down before fact as a little child, be prepared to give up every preconceived notion… or you shall learn nothing.”
-Thomas H. Huxley
As each day passes, we are exposed more and more to new experiences. These experiences happen before our senses, and we in turn look outwards to them from the knowledge and history of experiences which have passed. In essence, we project our previous experiences onto new experiences.
Likewise, when we process these experiences, they often fall into the familiar ways of thinking that we are accustomed to. We take what we have learned, seen, heard, experienced, and use this to understand the world around us. Sometimes when there is something new, we will in the blanks with the old in an effort to make sense.
This is all perfectly natural.
But the quote by Huxley raises a very interesting point that we should consider: how do we process new experiences? Are we ever truly able to observe things from an objective standpoint? Can we ever remove the glasses and eyes that we form our way of looking at the world?
Huxley proposes that in light of new facts, that we should sit down as a child, who has not had many years of experience reinforcing their world view. In short, we should be open to new facts and new experiences in of themselves. There is much that can be gained by simply stopping for a moment, and allowing ourselves to understand HOW we are looking at a new experience through our previous lenses. Understanding can allow us to pause for a moment before we can begin to open our mind to the new-ness of what is before us.
To truly learn, maybe we have to momentarily forget everything that we know so that we don’t inadvertently fill in holes with our own knowledge, and instead let that new learning fill in those holes by themselves…
It’s been a long while since my last post, but I think it’s time to restart making entries on this blog. Which goes directly to the point above, about allowing yourself to be reborn.
As humans, we are bombarded by many things throughout the day. Some of these things are all but tiny specks, unnoticed, uneffective, and unimportant. But every once in a while, something comes up that can shake a person to the core.
Many of us are naturally resistant to change. We fall into our habits, our customs, our beliefs. But when an opportunity comes along to change all that, we have a choice: On the one hand we can allow ourselves to ignore the opportunity and proceed as if nothing happen. On the other, we can embrace the opportunity for change, really embrace it, and make an attempt to reach out of our routines, and beliefs…to reach out beyond our natural groove and allow ourselves to change, to evolve, to be reborn.
These opportunities are all around us. They are people. They are events. Sometimes they are a simple thought like: “Hey…I miss writing that blog”. For the past year, my response to that very thought was that I simply did not have the time. But there is always time to be reborn. There is always time for the things that matter. There is always time to be reborn…if you allow yourself to find/make-it.
There is always room to become better, to re-create ourselves, to restart some old, good habits. Every day, every moment, is an opportunity to do that. We just have to resist the gravity of the old, the things that we have grown accustomed to.