Happy Monday everyone! Today’s Monday Mantra is this: “I will forgive myself.”
The past can be a very tricky thing. Our memories create moments of nostalgia, heartbreak, longing; just about every emotion you can imagine on the spectrum. We can look back with rose coloured glasses, or with darker glasses depending on our mindset at the time.
But the past has already happened. The past has gone, never again to be accessed by us. It is something that can never be changed. And this is why as wonderful as the past can be in giving us nostalgia, or as wise as it can be as a teacher teaching us about what not to do, it is important to make sure that we do not linger there for too long.
Our minds have a tendency to push us back to the past. We may obsess and relive the things we did wrong, or look at our own past with critical eyes. We tell ourselves we could have done better, or we should have done this differently, and this begins the weighted process of regret. Instead of moving forward, we remain anchored to a past that we cannot change.
Today’s mantra reminds us that as useful an ally it can be, we must not linger too much in the past. When we are looking back so critically, it’s important to pause and realize that we did the best that we could given the circumstances. Hindsight in 20/20 after all, and so we must learn and let go. To dwell on the past, to be weighted down by it, will restrict our growth and development.
Forgive yourself for having done what you did (or didn’t do), learn from it, and ensure that the lessons of the past are carried forward as tools, rather than as weights.
There is so much in the past. But there is even more in the present. Forgive yourself by recognizing that there is nothing you can do to change things. Forgive yourself by realizing that you did the best that you could do given the circumstances, and that you will do your best to be better prepared in the future. Take the moment of regret you may feel, forgive yourself, and then let it teach you what you need to succeed in your future.
The past is already set in stone. But the future, remains to be written. How will you write your future? Start by forgiving your past self…