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Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become. ~ Rumi
What is luck? We know it is good and some people are blessed with it but the big question is how do we get more of it?
First of all, let’s find out exactly what luck is.
According to the dictionary, luck is “success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one’s own actions.”
While this is a good definition, there do seem to be people who are more prone to “lucky breaks” than others.
You have probably heard on occasion that you make your own luck. This is true and I can show you how to make more of it for yourself.
Luck can appear to be magical and there are some seemingly magic elements involved. However, if you really understand how life works, you can easily see how to make your life luckier.
First you have to understand what each of us as individuals are trying to do in life. We are trying to survive and to help others to survive better. We are connected as families, towns, countries, races and ultimately as the human race. What affects one of us affects the rest of us whether we know it or admit it or not.
When you look at luck, you cannot just look at luck for yourself but luck as it affects everyone involved in any given situation.
A thief who finds someone’s door unlocked may feel lucky, but the loss of property for the one being robbed and the subsequent self degradation of the thief makes us realize that his discovery of the open door was in fact, extremely unlucky.
When one commits harmful or criminal acts, he also creates his own bad luck. Call it Karma or give it another name. It doesn’t really matter, it is a fact of this universe.
-Taken from Lifehack.org’s “15 Ways to Create Luck”
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1. Don’t be Your Own Worst Enemy
2. Practice Gratitude
3. Savor Pleasant Experiences
4. Exercise Optimism
Taken from 4 Ways of Choosing Happiness – Time
Here are some of my own reflections on the above:
1. Don’t be your own worst enemy:
We all have a critical voice inside us that is rooted in a one word philosophy: “can’t”. It’s a critical voice that makes us pause when we are pursuing something we like, or make us doubt the things we know. Learning to listen to this voice, without letting it interfere is a skill that can take months to years to form. One way I’ve learned to deal with this voice is to recognize that anything that generates a reaction from that voice of critical self, is probably worth my time. The things that we are most scared of doing, often end up being the most rewarding. The next time you hear the inner voice of ‘cant’, realize that you’re onto something worthwhile…and then give it your all.
2. Practice Gratitude
It’s easy to look at the things we don’t have. But to take a pause from that and focus on the things that we do have is one of the most rewarding skills a person can have. People try to define their happiness by accumulating the things that they have, when happiness can come from the things they already have. Take a moment every day (I like to do it at the beginning and end of every day), to appreciate the things you have. Maybe it’s the fact that you had some free time to pursue a hobby. Maybe it’s the fact that you had a good day. Maybe it’s simply looking forward to the cool crisp sheets you’re about to sleep in. Whatever it is, find something to be extremely grateful for, and let it fill you up with happiness, appreciation, and gratitude.
3. Savour pleasant experiences
This one is very similar to practicing gratitude. Whereas gratitude may be backwards or forward reflecting, savouring pleasant experiences is something that has to be done in the moment. Stop right now. Take a minute to do absolutely nothing. Focus on the air around you, your breathing, the sounds, your body etc. What about this very moment is pleasant? Now, try this same exercise the next time something pleasant happens to you. Pause and really soak in the moment to appreciate it.
4. Exercise optimism
This one is perhaps the hardest of them all. Optimism is not something you just do. It is a philosophy and way of life that can take years to fully form. The next time something neutral or bad happens, try to see the glass half full. What about that experience can be beneficial to you? What about that experience has taught you something new? The expression “there is always a silver lining” is almost always true. The trick is looking to find that silver lining. Take every opportunity to find the silver lining, and you will be one step closer to an optimistic attitude.
“Sit down before fact as a little child, be prepared to give up every preconceived notion… or you shall learn nothing.”
-Thomas H. Huxley
As each day passes, we are exposed more and more to new experiences. These experiences happen before our senses, and we in turn look outwards to them from the knowledge and history of experiences which have passed. In essence, we project our previous experiences onto new experiences.
Likewise, when we process these experiences, they often fall into the familiar ways of thinking that we are accustomed to. We take what we have learned, seen, heard, experienced, and use this to understand the world around us. Sometimes when there is something new, we will in the blanks with the old in an effort to make sense.
This is all perfectly natural.
But the quote by Huxley raises a very interesting point that we should consider: how do we process new experiences? Are we ever truly able to observe things from an objective standpoint? Can we ever remove the glasses and eyes that we form our way of looking at the world?
Huxley proposes that in light of new facts, that we should sit down as a child, who has not had many years of experience reinforcing their world view. In short, we should be open to new facts and new experiences in of themselves. There is much that can be gained by simply stopping for a moment, and allowing ourselves to understand HOW we are looking at a new experience through our previous lenses. Understanding can allow us to pause for a moment before we can begin to open our mind to the new-ness of what is before us.
To truly learn, maybe we have to momentarily forget everything that we know so that we don’t inadvertently fill in holes with our own knowledge, and instead let that new learning fill in those holes by themselves…
“To laugh is to risk being a fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
To express feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams, before the crowd
Is to risk their loss. To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
The person who risks nothing,
Has nothing and is nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow, But they simply cannot learn, Feel, change, grow, love or live.
Risks must be taken because, The greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
Only a person who risks is free.”
– Leo Buscalia
It’s very easy to take the path of least resistance. That’s why its called the path of least resistance. We can all sit back in our comfort zones and hope for excitement to come at us. And sometimes it does. But more likely is that it won’t as long as we are sitting back.
The brain craves stimulation. As humans, we crave new experiences, new stimuli. Perhaps our most helpful skill is the ability to adapt, but much as we can adapt, we can also get bored easily. New experiences force us to break free from our own expectations, from what we feel are the limits of our capabilities. We push back on the walls that for so long we’ve believed, and are introduced to worlds never before imagined, or even dreamed.
To life, is to risk dying. But we take the risk anyway. Why? Because it’s worth it. If we were to let the fear of death completely consume us, our lives would never progress, we would never learn, or grow, or feel, or love.
Sure, there is a part of us that is devoted to self-preservation, that says “taking risks will threaten that self-preservation”. But the things in life that challenge us are the ones that make us grow the most. Self-preservation does not have to be preservation of one state of being. People change. People grow. Times and environments change and grow also.
And when the ride of life ends and we look back, we will never regret the things we did, as much as the things we didn’t do. Take a risk. Embrace your possibilities of potential.